Beautify Your Confidence

Beauty Hack

So a few days ago, my friend Amanda and I got together to “study” (and by study I clearly mean eat snacks and watch YouTube videos). We were deep into beauty hacks when my friend started saying she isn’t “pretty enough” to pull off these looks.


Amanda is gorgeous! I don’t understand how she gets her hair to be so cute every day. Not to mention, she is one of the sweetest people EVER. How does she not realize how beautiful she is?

She compliments me all the time, but when I tell her how amazing she is, she doesn’t believe it. I started to realize that I am guilty of that too sometimes. It is easy to look at these beauty vloggers and see them as perfect. It is easy to see all the beautiful features in your best friend. But for some reason, it is hard to recognize those amazing things in ourselves.

All this studying *ahem* YouTube watching reminded me that we need to add CONFIDENCE to our beauty routines.

Feeling beautiful is about knowing within YOURSELF that you ARE beautiful. The power to feel good about yourself lies within YOU.

About a year ago, I posted The Essential Step You Need in Your Beauty Routine.

I wanted to link it in this post and share it again because it is so important. It is my sticky note beauty hack to beautify your confidence.

You take time on the way you look. Don’t forget to take time on the way you feel about yourself.

Intrigued? You should be.

Go check out the link above and remember you ARE beautiful.

Dear Hope: Am I a Bad Girlfriend

Dear Hope,bad-girlfriend
I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend. My friends always see him hanging out with other girls and when I ask him about it he says their just jealous, but I really don’t think they are. My friends have always supported me and been there for me. I believe them when they say they see him with other girls, but I love him. Also when I ask him about it, he says he could get any of those girls anytime so I better be nice to him. I am nice, but maybe I’m not doing enough. I’m worried he will go with one of those girls. What should I do?
– Bad Girlfriend

Dear Bad Girlfriend,
You don’t sound like a bad girlfriend to me. He sounds like a bad boyfriend.

There is nothing wrong with your boyfriend talking to other girls. If he is attempting to date them, that’s a problem.

You have always trusted your friends. If what they are telling you it doesn’t’ feel right, you should probably listen. Also, listen to your gut. You know things don’t feel right.

It sounds like he does not respect you. I think you need to take some time to figure out what is best for YOU. Is a boyfriend that says he can replace you easily the right guy for you? I think not.

I know it’s hard to walk away. It’s understandable you love him. But it’s time to love yourself just as much. Lean on your friends. It sounds like they want what is best for you. They will support you and help you move on.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Our Favorites February

Happy February!

bee our valentine

Here are some of our fav ways to show love:

Fav Kisses: Hershey Kisses! Show your boo some love. Honestly, everyone loves chocolate.

hershey kisses

Fav Boost: Love yo self.

owl you need is love

Fav Movie Must: Red Velvet Popcorn Popcorn goes with movies! Duh! Show your popcorn (and your movie night date) some love by mixing it up with red velvet cake! Looks amazing and sounds delicious!

Fav Thoughtful: Show the planet some love!


How do YOU show love?

Dear Hope: My Grandmother Is Sick

Dear Hope,grandmother
My family is a little different from the average I guess. We spend a lot of time together. I don’t mean just my immediate family, but I see my aunts/uncles and cousins at least once a week. I love how close we all are. Ever since I was a baby the “home base” for my family has been my grandmother’s house. She’s what holds it all together. (Just as a side note my grandfather died before I was born.)

Anyway, last summer my grandmother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Of course I was really sad but it helped a lot with the fact that she still seemed normal, well as normal as an 87 year old woman can be. I tried not to think about it and it worked. But over the last two weeks things seemed to have taken a down hill slide. Now it all seems so real. She’s not at all the same person she was a year ago and I can tell the end is coming soon. (I think she can too) But the thing is I don’t know when the end is and that terrifies me. It could be tomorrow or in a month or two months.

At first I thought it would be good to know ahead of time but now I really wish I didn’t. The other day I overheard some of my family quietly talking about funeral plans. (Not around my grandmother of course.) I’m so scared that after this the whole family will fall apart as my grandmother has always been the rock. I’ve spent every single holiday at my grandmother’s. This is going to be a really hard blow for the whole family and I don’t think I’ll be able to stand to see them so sad, especially my mom.

I’ve been fortunate enough to never have to cope with the death of a close family member before and I guess I don’t know how. I don’t want people to hug me and say they’re sorry for me and I hate crying in front of other people but I doubt I’ll be able to hold it together. I haven’t talked to anyone about this before as I don’t want to upset any of my family or burden any of my friends. Mom says I’ve been really good about everything but I guess that’s cause I’m keeping everything bottled up inside. If you have any advice on how to cope with everything, I would really appreciate it.
– Anonymous


Dear Anonymous,

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. There are no words I can say to make this better, but I will try my best to give you some ideas on how to cope with everything.

When you’re with your grandmother, focus on the present. Don’t concentrate on what will happen, think about the fact that she is still with you now. Remind yourself that you still have this time with her. It is great that your family spends so much time together. Surrounding her with love and letting her know you appreciate her is what she needs now.


Try journaling when you are thinking about it or start to feel sad. Get it out of your head. Writing about your feelings can help you process what’s going.


Losing a loved one is never easy for anyone. Everyone deals with it in their own way. Don’t worry about holding it together. When someone dies, people grieve and grieving is a different experience for each person. Some people cry uncontrollably, some never shed a tear and others may even laugh. Some will become quiet, while others can’t stop talking. Our emotions don’t always work the way we would like them to. They can also change minute to minute or day to day. One day you could be crying and the next day laughing. Emotions are okay and healthy. There is no right or wrong way to deal with the loss of a loved one.


Some people will hug you and say they’re sorry. That’s their way of saying they feel for you. When my grandmother died, I was young and so many people hugged me. Most of them I had never met before. It was awkward and uncomfortable for me, but I later realized they didn’t know what else to do. It was a way for them to express that they were sorry for my loss. The easiest thing to do is just to say thank you and move on.


Don’t be afraid to talk to your parents and family. Even when it’s hard. I know that it will be difficult to see your mom sad, but she needs love and support too. Remember they are probably having similar feelings and want to talk about it also. It’s a time to support each other. Don’t forget you are a close family; don’t let that go.


Make sure that you are taking care of yourself through all of this. A healthy you is a happy you. Being tired and run-down can make you feel worse. Eat, exercise (yoga, taking a walk), and rest. Actually, yoga can be a great way to get rid of stress and it can help you sleep better. Be honest with your feelings and your family. When you need a break or some alone time, take it.


If you need support, don’t be afraid to get it. Peer support groups can be a great way to help you heal. You can share your feelings with other teens that have also experienced a loss.


I’m so sorry. Going through this with someone you love is difficult and painful. I know you are a strong and caring person, but don’t be afraid take time for yourself and feel what you are feeling.

I will be thinking about you and your family.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Dear Hope: Should I Become a Beauty Vlogger

Dear Hope,beauty vlogger
I’ve been thinking about becoming a beauty vlogger. I love fashion. I enjoy taking pictures of my outfits. I’m always sharing my fashion tips with my friends. I read every fashion magazine I can. Seriously I love love love everything about it. My two best friends are always encouraging me to start a YouTube channel. So I’m thinking about it. The problem is I know there are so many already. I don’t want to sound selfish and I don’t expect to be famous, but I do want people to watch them. And what if I get a ton of mean comments? I don’t know. I think it would be fun to do it, but do you think it’s worth it?
– Vlogger

Dear Vlogger,
I think becoming a beauty vlogger sounds like an awesome idea. If you’re passionate about it, go for it.

I’m not going to lie, there are many YouTubers out there, but I think there is room for everyone. Each person can bring his or her own uniqueness to it.

When you first start, be patient with yourself and the process. Don’t worry about the numbers of likes and subscribers. Just be yourself. Show everyone you believe and care about the content you’re putting out there. Plus, if fashion is something you love, making time for your passion is always worth it!

Although most people will be supportive with their comments, there are some haters out there. Here’s what fellow beauty vlogger Ingrid Nilsen has to say. “Sometimes those mean things sting. I’m not going to tell you to ignore it, because that’s not what I do. I allow myself to feel those bad emotions, but then I get through it- getting through something is much more powerful than ignoring it.” I think Ingrid says it best. Work through those negative comments, but never let them stop you from being you.

Have fun and good luck with your channel. Let us know when you post your first video.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Dear Hope: Who Am I?

Dear Hope,who am i
I want to figure out who I am. I was born a girl and I comfortable with that, but I like to dress more like a boy. I’m wondering if I’m transgender. I’m 14 and I feel like I should know by now. I want to know who I am so I can be me. How can I figure this out?
– Who Am I

Dear Who Am I,
There is no timeline when it comes to knowing who you are. It takes time to truly understand yourself. Trust me when I say you are not alone in this. We are all continuously trying to figure out who we are.

As long as you are being authentic and doing what feels right to you in the moment, you are being you.

It’s great that you have the courage to be yourself. So many people try pretending to be what others want them. We are all the happiest is when we are being true to who we are.

Take some time to:

Dream: Think about the future you. How does your life look? Think about your ideal job, your life partner. What do you look like? Whatever your dreams are could give you an idea of who you want to be.

Say It: Use different pronouns. Look in the mirror and say I am a… boy, girl, etc. Also try saying I am not… Does one feel right? Does one feel wrong?

It is possible that you identify as transgender, but it is also possible that you just enjoy dressing like a “boy”.


It’s totally ok if you feel something one day and change your mind later. Whatever you feel in the moment is valid.

The key is being comfortable and proud of each step in your discovery.

You might find these links helpful.

Teen Survival Guide – This site gives you some questions to think about It’s designed to help introduce you to a variety of genders.

TSER – Trans Student Educational Resources

TrevorSpace – A safe LGBTQ social network where you can connect with other teens

YouTube – There are a lot of teens talking about their own experiences.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Happy New Year!

happy new year


Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.



– Ralph Waldo Emerson

The End is Near

new year

This has been a very tough and emotional year. There has been too much sadness and confusion. Our world has dealt with hate, attacks, shootings, deaths and some strange elections.

Social media has played a huge part in this year. We have seen damaging hate spread everywhere, yet there have been overwhelmingly huge amounts of support for one other. We couldn’t be prouder of the people we follow on Twitter. They understand what is going on in the world and speak the truth, but there is always hope. There is always hope for our world and everything in it. You are our future and because of you, our future has hope.

Among all the negative things, some amazingly good things happened this year. Tumblr user helthehatter has compiled a terrific list ‘good things that happened in 2016’. Definitely worth checking out! Yes, it will make your heart feel all warm and fuzzy.

It’s almost time to get off this wacky, did that just happen, roller coaster ride called “2016”. In just a matter of days, 2017 will be rolling in.

Before you say goodbye, take some time to reflect on the year and ask yourself these #3 questions.

1. Did you accomplish your biggest goals this year?

When January 1st comes, we all set goals and we continue making goals all year. Completing a goal feels awesome, but we usually expect too much from ourselves. It can be impossible to do it all. Think about any big goals you conquered or meaningful accomplishments.

Think about the goals you made. Did you have too many? Did you finish them all? How can you change the way you set goals for next year? You are a human, not a robot.

2. Was there something you could have done differently?

Could you have spent more time with friends or family? Could you have handled a situation better? What did you learn this year? Think about how you will handle this in the upcoming year.

3. What are you most proud of from the year?

As you celebrate the new year, also celebrate you. Think about your achievements. Any and all of them, big or small. Did you get that grade or finally understand that math problem? Did you start a blog or make a new friend? Did you try something new? Whatever it is, you’re amazing and you should be proud of yourself.


We don’t know what 2017 brings, but I know we are ready. We will bravely face the new year, full of new possibilities.

Thank you 2016 for everything you gave us and taught us.

2017….bring it!

Dear Hope: First Kiss

Dear Hope,first kiss
I’m 15 and I haven’t had my first kiss. I would like to, but it hasn’t happened yet. My friends say I just need to get the first one over with. I’m not expecting fireworks but I want it to be special.
– Never Been Kissed

Dear Never Been Kissed,
Your friends are suggesting getting the first one over with, but It doesn’t sound like that’s what you want.

No matter what your friends say, it is up to you to know when you’re ready.

There is no first kiss timeline.

There is no rush to get it over.

Your first kiss will only happen once. Trust me, you will feel it and know when it’s the right time. Having a connection with the person you want to kiss will make it special.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Our Favorites December

Before we talk about anything else, have you watched the Gilmore Girls reunion on Netflix yet? You know we have! Don’t worry, no spoilers here.

We love the Gilmore Girls! I think a lot of love comes from how much we can relate. It’s always just been my mom and me. We basically are the Gilmore Girls. We are super close and have very similar personalities and quirks to Rory and Lorelai.
We got to go back in Stars Hollow! They truly brought back everyone. Love that. Well, almost everyone. It was sad not to have Richard Gilmore (Edward Herrmann) there.

We would love to hear if you watched. What did you think? Let us know below in the comments.

Okay, let’s move on. The Gilmore Girls are great, but now on to December.

Well hello there December,
I love all the lights, music, and cheer that December brings. It also brings me frustration and exhaustion.

Why? (How sweet of you for asking!)

I work in retail and this is the time of year people start losing their minds. Okay, not everyone acts crazy, but the ones who do… watch out.

I’ve seen people go into full on monster mode over not getting a sweater fast enough or cheap enough. We all love cheap sweaters, but there is more to life! Here is my advice.

Go out and shop, but be nice to the person helping you. We’re all in this together.

Now a shout out to Veronica! Her birthday is on December 24th this month!

Happy Birthday, Mom! (show her some love in the comments)

There are so many things to love about December.

Here are some of our favorites.

Gabriella’s Fav Must See: Elf. Hilarious and adorable. A must see every December.


Veronica’s Fav Treat: Peppermint Crunch Cookie Dough Ball. This looks delicious! I love peppermint this time of year and I’m a sucker for cookie dough. It’s a win-win. It looks so easy to make. You can give it as a gift, take it to a party or just to share with friends on movie night.

Thanks for the recipe

Gabriella’s Fav Yum: Eggnog Milkshake! This tastes so delicious and is super easy to make. I cheat and use Eggnog ice cream. Put the ice cream, a little milk and a splash of vanilla in a blender. Blend until smooth. That’s it! Put the shake in a glass with some whipped cream, add a straw and enjoy.


Veronica’s Fav Drink: Hot chocolate. I love hot chocolate in the winter! When I’m all snuggled up watching a cheesy movie it tastes even better.

Our Fav Jingle: Winter Wonderland. Andra Day does this awesome version.

Have a holly jolly December!

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