Monthly Archives: April 2017

Dear Hope: Summer Job

Dear Hope,teen at summer job
I’m thinking about getting a job this summer. I asked my mom about it and she said I could do what I want. She also said she thinks I won’t like it. She thinks I will regret it because I will want to be lazy and have fun instead of going to work. I think she’s wrong. I’m not really a lazy person, plus both my best friends are not going to be here all summer. One of my friends is going to Europe with her dad and the other is going to art camp. I don’t have any plans so I thought I could get a job and earn some money. What do you think? Should I get a summer job?
– Jen

Dear Jen,
I think it sounds like a great idea. It will give you something to do and focus on during the summer. Especially since your friends will be away. Earning money is a bonus.

You will still have plenty of time to be “lazy” if you want. You can also meet new people at a job. You may even find someone you can hang out with this summer to get in some of that “fun”.

Go for it! Take on that summer job.

Check out these Summer Job Tips and 100 Fun and Lucrative Summer Jobs for Teens

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Our Favorites April

It’s April, it’s April, it’s April!

How’s everyone doing? I hope you are all doing well and taking good care of yourself.

Are you taking enough time for yourself?

It’s important to make sure you are taken care of. Sleep in on a Saturday, treat yourself to your fav desert, or just dance alone in your room. Do whatever works, just don’t forget YOU.

We took a mini vacay in March where we spent some time taking care of ourselves. We were relaxing, finishing books we’ve put off reading, and my fav writing in my journal. With school, work and blogging we don’t get to do those things often.

We saw our cousin get married! The wedding was beautiful and we are beyond happy for her. We also met our new baby cousin. He was sooo adorable and cuddly like a puppy.

Gabbie Holding Baby

Each day is a beautiful new start.

Make the most of it and don’t forget to take care of YOU.

Some of our fav ways:

Fav Comfy: Sock It to Me socks. Sock It to Me creates fun and funky socks. They not only keep your feet warm and cozy, they make you smile every time you look down. Check out their site for a ton of cute designs.

Fav Treat Yo-self: Cookie Dough Dip. Get some friends together to hang out. Then seriously break out this dip. Delish!!!

Image by Delish

Fav Face Treat:

 

Fav Saying: Okay, I had to put two because they are so YES right now.

 

Today I Choose Me Quote

I Froget Quote

 

Fav Site: Goodreads! It is the world’s largest site for readers and book recommendations. Read a book! It’s a great way to nourish your mind and to take some time for yourself.

Take Care of Yourself

Dear Hope: How Can I Ease The Pain?

Dear Hope,
I lost my fiancee in January this year. It was a horrible start to the year and I’m not getting better I feel like I’m stuck in the same place I was 2 months ago. I feel sad and upset all the time and I just wish that it never happened. Every time I laugh or feel happy, I can’t help but think that I’m never going to see him again. I just want to be able to get through the day without thinking about morbid things and without getting so upset I want to cry. I was hit by denial in the worst way and I still feel like I’m still denying it sometimes. People are telling me to get help but I know there is no one that can help me but myself. Please tell me how I can ease the pain and get through a day happily.
Thank you.
– SK

Dear SK,
I am so sorry for your loss. I am sorry you had to start your year this way.

It is important for you to understand there is no right or wrong way for you to feel right now. Handling the loss of someone you love is incredibly hard.

Grief has no rules or timeline.
It has only been two months. Two months are not that long. It can take a long time to figure out a new way to live without him being there. It’s different for each person and how you grieve is different for each person. No one can completely understand how you feel. How you heal might look different from how others around you heal.

Grief can be messy and confusing.
Guilt, denial, anger, and happiness are parts of the grieving process. It’s normal to be happy one moment and overwhelmingly sad the next. It can change day-to-day or minute to minute. Don’t feel bad about how you feel. Allow yourself to experience these emotions. You are still learning how to cope with this and how to move forward.

When you’re having a hard moment, take a few deep breaths and try to redirect your thoughts. Think about happy times or treasured memories. If that feels like too much, try to focus on something else. Turn on a new song or flip through a magazine. I’m not trying to make it seem light, but sometimes it can help to distract yourself with something light and easy. Have distractions planned or ready.Find and do things you enjoy like painting, writing, or jogging. These types of activities can help you work through your emotions.

Stress like this can take a big toll on you. Please make sure you are eating and getting good rest. Concentrating on yourself and going about your daily routine can be very calming.

Don’t go through this alone.

I know you said there is no one that can help you but yourself. It’s true that your healing will be up to you. It will take place in your timing. HOWEVER, getting help can simply mean having support. It does not mean someone will fix you. It means you have others who are there for you.
You could join a support group. It can be comforting to share your feelings with people who have also experienced a loss.

I’m glad you reached out. Don’t be ashamed if you decide you do need help. Grief counselors are professionals that know how to help.

I’m so sorry. There are no words I can type that will tell you how to ease the pain. At some point, you will you start to notice that you have more good moments or less sad moments.
Allow yourself the time it takes, however long that is. You are in our thoughts.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope