Monthly Archives: February 2017

Dear Hope: I Need To Go To This Concert

Dear Hope,concert road trip
I need your help convincing my mom to let me go to a concert with my friends. When I asked her if I could go, she initially said yes. But when I told her it was three hours away she freaked out and said no. She feels like it’s not safe for four girls to be driving there alone.

When I talked to my friends, they said their moms said no too, but then one of their moms offered to take us. She said she would drive us there and back and be with us the whole time. We really want to go this concert so we decided we would be ok with her going.

So we all bought tickets. My mom had said yes at first so I figured it would be ok. Her only problem was us being alone. When I tried to tell her, she would not listen to me. She said I already said no and that’s that. She’s still mad because we got into a big argument about it the last time. But what do I do now? I want to go sooooo bad and I’ve already bought the ticket. HELP I need to go to this concert. If I don’t get to go I don’t know what I’ll do. I love them so much.
– UpsetFan

Dear UpsetFan,
I don’t think it’s going to be easy to get your mom to turn her no into a yes. Especially since you bought your ticket without her permission. Prepare yourself for the fact that she might not change her mind.

That said, I have two ideas you can try.

One:
Write her a letter. You’ve tried talking and that’s not working. She is not willing to hear you right now Instead, write out what you want to say. Start with a BIG apology. Apologize for the argument you had. Recognize that you were wrong for buying the ticket without her permission. Then explain the situation and really highlight that an adult will be going with you. Don’t forget to add an I love you and a thank you.

After you have written it, leave it someone you know she will see it. Then wait. Give her a few days to read it. Hopefully she will get back to you soon. Don’t pressure her or bug her about it, just wait it out.

Two:
This is somewhat sneaky, but I think it will work. Ask the mom that has offered to go with you if she would be willing to call your mom. They can talk adult to adult. Your friend’s mom can explain that she was also against it at first, until she decided to chaperone. She can let her know that she will be with you the whole time. Your mom will have a harder time saying no to another parent.

I personally like choice one. I think it’s better if you can work things out with your mom yourself. However, if that’s not working choice two is a winner.

Bonus tip: Write the letter and try working it out AND let her talk to your friend’s mom. She will not only see you are making an effort to do the right thing, but she will also get reassurance from another adult.

Good luck and enjoy the concert.

Just a side note: If you don’t get to go it’s not the end of the world. Don’t stay angry at your mom. It’s not worth it. Be calm and show your maturity so she will be more willing to let you go the next time.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Beautify Your Confidence

Beauty Hack

So a few days ago, my friend Amanda and I got together to “study” (and by study I clearly mean eat snacks and watch YouTube videos). We were deep into beauty hacks when my friend started saying she isn’t “pretty enough” to pull off these looks.

WHAT?!?

Amanda is gorgeous! I don’t understand how she gets her hair to be so cute every day. Not to mention, she is one of the sweetest people EVER. How does she not realize how beautiful she is?

She compliments me all the time, but when I tell her how amazing she is, she doesn’t believe it. I started to realize that I am guilty of that too sometimes. It is easy to look at these beauty vloggers and see them as perfect. It is easy to see all the beautiful features in your best friend. But for some reason, it is hard to recognize those amazing things in ourselves.

All this studying *ahem* YouTube watching reminded me that we need to add CONFIDENCE to our beauty routines.

Feeling beautiful is about knowing within YOURSELF that you ARE beautiful. The power to feel good about yourself lies within YOU.

About a year ago, I posted The Essential Step You Need in Your Beauty Routine.

I wanted to link it in this post and share it again because it is so important. It is my sticky note beauty hack to beautify your confidence.

You take time on the way you look. Don’t forget to take time on the way you feel about yourself.

Intrigued? You should be.

Go check out the link above and remember you ARE beautiful.

Dear Hope: Am I a Bad Girlfriend

Dear Hope,bad-girlfriend
I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend. My friends always see him hanging out with other girls and when I ask him about it he says their just jealous, but I really don’t think they are. My friends have always supported me and been there for me. I believe them when they say they see him with other girls, but I love him. Also when I ask him about it, he says he could get any of those girls anytime so I better be nice to him. I am nice, but maybe I’m not doing enough. I’m worried he will go with one of those girls. What should I do?
– Bad Girlfriend

Dear Bad Girlfriend,
You don’t sound like a bad girlfriend to me. He sounds like a bad boyfriend.

There is nothing wrong with your boyfriend talking to other girls. If he is attempting to date them, that’s a problem.

You have always trusted your friends. If what they are telling you it doesn’t’ feel right, you should probably listen. Also, listen to your gut. You know things don’t feel right.

It sounds like he does not respect you. I think you need to take some time to figure out what is best for YOU. Is a boyfriend that says he can replace you easily the right guy for you? I think not.

I know it’s hard to walk away. It’s understandable you love him. But it’s time to love yourself just as much. Lean on your friends. It sounds like they want what is best for you. They will support you and help you move on.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Our Favorites February

Happy February!

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Here are some of our fav ways to show love:

Fav Kisses: Hershey Kisses! Show your boo some love. Honestly, everyone loves chocolate.

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Fav Boost: Love yo self.

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Fav Movie Must: Red Velvet Popcorn Popcorn goes with movies! Duh! Show your popcorn (and your movie night date) some love by mixing it up with red velvet cake! Looks amazing and sounds delicious!

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Fav Thoughtful: Show the planet some love!

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How do YOU show love?