Dear Hope: My Mom Doesn’t Want Me to Get a Bikini
My mom and I are going shopping for our summer vacation. We go to the same place for our vacation every year and I love going. This year I’m 15 and I want to get a bikini and my mom says absolutely not. That’s it, it’s completely ridiculous. I mean everyone wears them. What is her deal. How can I get her to let me wear one? I can’t even sneak one because we are always together as a family there. It’s not like I’m trying to show off my body I just like the way they look. They are cuter than one a piece. Help me!
– Bathing suit drama
Dear Bathing Suit Drama,
It sounds like you are going to have a lot fun this summer!
My first suggestion is to talk to your mom and find out why she is against it. Listen to what she has to say. She may have valid reasons. Once you understand her side then you can state your case.
Explain how you like the way they look. That the one piece bathing suits, don’t have as many cute options. Reassure her that it is not about showing off your body, it’s about your own style.
Let her know you respect her reasons, but you hope she can also respect yours. Ask her if she would be willing to let you try them on when you go shopping. Then you can both have a look and see if it feels right. If she’s still against it ask about a compromise for this summer. You have always worn a one piece, so maybe this summer you could try a tankini (a compromise).
Expressing who you are is important, but for now, your mom still decides on this topic. If she stays firm in her answer respect that and find other ways to show your style. Get a really cute cover up or a funky hat.
Remember to have a great time this summer no matter what bathing suit you are wearing. Clothes do not determine who you are or how much fun you can have.
Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.