Monthly Archives: April 2016

The Words You Should Be Using Right Now

Saying the words “thank you” means showing gratitude to someone. It lets them know you appreciate their words or actions.

Have you used those words today? Have you thanked someone?

It’s easy to get caught up in your daily life and forget to say thank you. Maybe you’re focused too much on yourself, you’re stressed or just too busy to notice the things people are doing.

Everyday someone you encounter deserves a thank you.

It might be something small like a person holding a door for you.

It might be big like a parent that has always been there for you.

Thank You

I encourage you to thank someone this week. Be appreciative of the all the little and big things that are being done for you.

Thank the barista for making you a nice cup of coffee.
Thank the school bus driver for getting you to school.
Thank the person who held the door for you.
Thank your mom and dad.
Thank your friends.
Thank your teacher for imparting you with knowledge (okay…cheesy much? But you get the point).Thanks quote

When you take time to be thankful, it helps you appreciate life more. The more you consciously focus on being grateful, the less you focus on being negative.

Did I just say that? Why, yes I did! THANK YOU for noticing.

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This week be aware and say thank you.

Two little words, eight letters.

Simple, yes, but big in meaning.

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THANK YOU!
I want to thank you for reading this post and for being exactly who you are.

– NBL V –

Dear Hope: I Want To Say Yes To A Relationship

Dear Hope,Boyfriend
I’m a 17 year old girl and my life is amazing.. but the best part is that there is this guy who is genuinely interested in me. I really wanna go ahead and say yes to a relationship. I spoke to my mom about it, and she thinks that all this is not for people like us. (My mom is kinda conservative) she thinks I’m wasting my study years in things like relationships.
do you have any advice 4 me??
– Devastated

Dear Devastated,
It’s awesome that your life is amazing! I love hearing that.

As exciting as it is to be at the beginning stages of a relationship, you need mom’s approval. I wouldn’t suggest hiding it because it will only make things worse. Sneaking around and lying is not a good idea. You don’t want the guilt of going behind your mom’s back.

I think you need to talk to your mom again. I know you already tried that but give it another shot.

Before you talk to her, plan what you want to say.
• Acknowledge her concerns. Let her know that you understand where she is coming from and that your study years are important to you, also. I think you should also address her saying “it’s not for people like us”. Put her fears at ease. Let her know you have no plans of running off and doing something crazy. You just want a chance to date this guy.
Explain that in order to grow, you need life experiences. Chances for you to make smart decisions on your own. Tell her you will always value her opinion and thank her for the amazing job she is doing.
• Compromise with her. Come with a plan that works for both of you.
For example: Only going out on weekends and keeping weekdays for studying.
Not staying up all night texting.
She gets to meet him.
Invite him over to hang out so she can see everything is fine.
These things give you a chance to show her you will do your best to make it work.

 

Stay calm even if she gets upset and show her the wonderful person she raised. This is not the time to get angry and say something you could regret.

There is no guarantee she will say yes, but it’s worth a try. If she does say no, you should probably let it go (for now). Give her some time (a few weeks or so) then ask her if you can discuss it again.

Continue to show her that you are ready. Would love to hear how it works out!

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Dear Hope: Keeping Our Relationship a Secret

Dear Hope,Secret Relationship
I’m dating my best friend and it’s awesome. We have been friends since we were 5. Around the age of 11 people started saying we should start dating and that we would get married someday. We had not even thought of that at all and it felt like pressure. It wasn’t until we were 15 that we started to look at each other in that way. We are now 17 and we just started dating 1 month ago. Except we haven’t told anyone yet. We really want to keep it a secret. We are great friends, but we don’t know how dating will turn out. If we decide we are better as friends than boyfriend and girlfriend then no big deal no one even knew. Our friends pressure us so much that we don’t want them to know yet. I think some of them are starting to suspect something. Especially since I have been acting like I enjoy being single. We are going to tell them eventually just not now. How can we keep it a secret? Also do you think it’s bad for us to keep it secretive?
– Keeping It A Secret

Dear Keeping It A Secret,
How exciting! This is a fun secret, especially since it won’t hurt anyone. It might drive everybody nuts wondering though.

If your relationship is healthy and you’re both comfortable, then it’s fine. There is nothing wrong with keeping it hidden for a little while. You are still feeling out this whole couple thing.

Like you said, you will tell them eventually. Plus, it sounds like your friends will all be very excited and supportive of you both.

Keeping it quiet might be hard if they are already getting suspicious. Act cool. Don’t ignore each other. Don’t act differently towards each other. Everyone already knows you are good friends.

The truth is your friends may figure it out sooner than later. It sounds like they ultimately just want what is best for you both. Remember, your relationship is between YOU and HIM. Don’t let them pressure you both into anything you don’t want or are not ready for.

It sounds like you are both strong people who know what you want. Keep doing what is best for your relationship and have fun!

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

The Make It Happen Method for When Your Brain Betrays You

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Do you ever feel like there’s nothing going on in your head?

You just sit there staring blankly. You know you need to be doing homework or coming up with that amazing idea, but you have absolutely nothing. Have you ever just sat around on a Saturday simply because you can’t figure out what to do.

It’s like your brain betrays you.

I have had those moments a lot this week. My brain refuses to work. It refuses to cooperate with me.

In these moments we have a tendency to do the 1,2,3’s.

1- Become frustrated
2- Get irritated
3- Give up

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Usually by the time I get to number 3, I am ready for a nap. I start to feel groggy and grumpy, and no closer to finishing my project or having any fun.

But this week, just as I was starting to get frustrated, I tried something different.

 I tried the “make it happen” method.

It’s just as it sounds, you make it happen. I sat down at the computer and started typing. At first, I was literally typing: “I have nothing to type and this is ridiculous,” but then my brain caught on. Ideas were popping into my head and soon I was typing away and getting my stuff done. I made it happen.

Another time this week, we were trying to figure out what to do. Normally we go back and forth in an endless cycle of “what do you want to do’s”.

Make It Happen

Again, I decided to use the “make it happen” method. I just stood up and said let’s get in the car and go! Every one gave me the “ok weirdo” face, but off we went. It forced us to come up with an idea. We went to the movies and then got ice cream. We ended up laughing a lot and having a great time. A better time than sitting around wondering what to do and going through the 1,2,3’s.

The moral of this story:

When you have no ideas and you are descending into the 1,2,3’s, get up and make it happen!

Have you ever experienced not knowing what to do or where to start?
How did you handle it?
Have you ever experienced the 1,2,3’s?

See that box down there that says leave a comment? Yes, I know you see it, well go ahead type something. Tell us your experiences on this topic.

– NBL V –

Dear Hope: My Mom Doesn’t Like My Low Cut Shirts

Dear Hope,Low Cut
I am 15 years old and my mom Is pissed because I wear low cut shirts. I don’t think it’s a big deal but she says I am asking for trouble. How am I asking for trouble? What she doesn’t understand is that guys look at me now. Before no one noticed me. Is there anything wrong with wearing my shirts like that.
– Jen

Dear Jen,
Parents usually just want what they think is best for you. I think what your mom is trying to say is that it she worries you will get the wrong kind of attention. Are they noticing you or are they noticing what’s under your shirt?

It can be fun and exciting to have the guys notice you, but for what reasons? If all they are interested in is your cleavage then maybe that’s not the attention you want. They should notice you for you and not just how low your shirt is. You know there is more to a person than how they look or dress. You personality shines through and that will be enough for someone to notice. I know it’s hard when that is not happening right away, but it will. The right guy will notice you. You deserve someone who is interested in YOU, not your cleavage.

Unless your mom says you are not allowed to wear low cut shirts, it’s really your decision. You get to decide what your style is and what you put on your body. It’s not up to me to say if there is anything wrong or right about it. I just ask you to think about your reasons and decide if it’s right for you.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Dear Hope: Getting Asked to Prom

Dear Hope,prom
I’m a senior this year and I want to go to prom. I just started dating someone and I don’t know if he is going to ask me. All these girls keep talking about how their boyfriends asked them in this big dramatic way. I’m not even sure my boyfriend is going to ask. I know it sounds dumb but everyone is saying if he doesn’t ask in a clever way it’s not worth going. I’m not sure what to do. I don’t think even if he asks he will ask that way. He is super sweet and I really want to go with him. What do you think?
– Prom?

Dear Prom?,
Prom should be exciting, not full of stress. Prom is about getting dressed up, dancing with friends and having fun. It’s not realistic to think that every asker should be expected to ask in some big magical way. Not all the askers are that creative or have the money it can take to do this. How you he asks should not determine the amount of fun you could have.

Your boyfriend may not even realize its prom time. Some guys don’t think about that stuff, but that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t want to go. Talk to him about it and see how he reacts. See if he is interested in going. Or, just straight out ask him to be your date. If he decides he is not into it, don’t stress about it. Go with a group of friends instead. Go to prom and have a blast.

How you’re asked, what you wear, or how you get there is really not the important part.
Dancing, having fun and making memories is what it is all about.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope