Monthly Archives: February 2016

Dear Hope: Completely Clueless in Geometry

Dear Hope,Geometry
My Geometry class is kicking my ass. I am falling behind and I’m completely clueless. I can’t fail or my parents will go off. HELP!!!!
– Failure

Dear Failure,
I use that name because it was the name given, but I don’t agree. Having difficulties or failing a class does not make a person a failure. Now that I have said that, back to Geometry.

You’re mid-way into this semester, but that is still enough time to turn things around.

 

Ask your teacher for help. They are there to help you understand the lessens they are teaching. Most teachers will find time to help you. If your teacher is not willing or doesn’t have time, ask them to recommend a tutor.
• Tutors can be a great help. If it’s someone from your school they have either just taken this class or may be taking it now. It’s fresh and they understand what you need to learn.
You can order Geometry For Dummies, 2nd Edition. According to the Amazon description learning geometry doesn’t have to be painful and can even be fun. I can’t guarantee the book will be fun, but I believe it can help you.
• Watch YouTube Videos. There are so many math type videos out there. If you don’t like one try another. Everyone has different styles of teaching and learning.

 

I think if you try one or all of those, it can help. You will have to put some effort in, but you can totally do it!

Also, I would recommend talking to your parents. Let them know you are struggling, but you’re going to get help. That always sounds good to parents. They may even have some ideas or resources to help you. Plus, if they know you are trying, they might even cut you some slack when your grades come out.

Good luck with the geometry!

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Will You Be Real This Week?

Be Real

Do you put up walls, or wear a mask to hide the real you?

Have you pretended to be something someone else wants to make life “easier,” or to be liked?

Do you ever feel like it is easier to be fake than to be you?

Are you being real?

I have to be honest with you, I act my way through too much of my life. I don’t even try, but like a safety vest, my mask inflates and I’m reacting appropriately before I can make a genuine mistake. It’s sometimes easier to unconsciously fake my way through moments than it is to remove the safety of being what everyone needs. It takes a conscious effort to remember to leave the safety vest off and actually be real. But once it’s off, the magic happens and it’s completely worth it.

It’s time to be real! Remove the safety vest and be authentically yourself.

I challenge myself to be real.

I challenge you to be real.

#weekofrealness

Let’s do this.

That comment section below is getting pretty lonely. Are you going to be real this week? Let me know!

– ttfn G –

Dear Hope: Not Ready For Boys

Dear Hope,not ready for boys
All my friends are starting to text boys, and I am not. I have to admit I have quite a few crushes in the past, but I got really angry that my friends are texting boys. They even invited all the girls to go ice skating, and I got really angry. It would have been fun, but I decided not go because the boys would be there. (And I actually had something going on that day) I sent one of my friends a text explaining that I was grossed out that most of the girls in my grade text these two obnoxious boys. I know it is normal for my age for guys and girls to start texting each other, but I just got really upset. I feel sorta bad now, but am still mad. I’m upset that boys sit at our table now, girls text them, and boys inviting us to activities. I know I can’t stop them, but I am just mad. I am not ready to grow up. I am not ready for boys acting like this. I remember in fourth grade or third grade when we all thought they were just obnoxious, but now they just think they are the coolest thing in the world. I know my feelings will change soon, but right now I am not ready for this. Any advice?
– #NotReadyforBoys

Dear #NotReadyforBoys,

People growing and changing is a part of life, especially at your age. This change might be difficult, but it’s happening. Your friends have decided to include boys. Even though you don’t like it, it’s their choice who they talk to and hang out with.

But how do you handle it?

I think you already know that getting mad was not the right thing. They didn’t do anything to hurt or upset you, they’re just doing what feels right to them.

You have to decide where you fit in to all of this. If you are not ready to hang out with boys, then don’t. There is no time line for these things. Sometimes people just follow along with the crowd.

I love how you know who you are. That takes strength and courage.

You have to understand that your friends will talk about the “boys”. They will text and go out with them. You should accept who your friends are, just as they should accept and respect who you are.

Try being cool when they sit at your table, after all, they are just people. But make sure you have some time with your friends in a boy free zone.

When you are invited out, it’s up to you whether you go. Don’t feel like you have to if that’s not your thing. You know you will have your time with the girls.

Boys shouldn’t interfere with your friendships, so don’t let them. Actually, the boys really have nothing to do with this. It’s how you and your friends handle it.

Continue being strong and do what is right for you. Also love your friends for who they are.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

The Essential Step You Need In Your Beauty Routine

Beauty Hack

Do you use a thousand products, yet still walk away from the mirror feeling self-conscious?  Do you have the longest beauty routine ever?

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was one product out there that can boost your confidence in no time?

If you are anything like me, your morning beauty routine probably includes things like face wash, mascara, blush, and sticky notes.

What? Sticky notes?

You heard me.

Sticky notes.

Sticky notes are a MUST in anyone’s beauty arsenal. They are the first product I use every morning. Some days, they are the only product I need! They always make me feel beautiful!

This is my sticky note beauty hack.

This beauty hack will make you realize your outside beauty by making you feel beautiful on the inside.

This essential step in your beauty routine is not just fast, it’s easy!

Let me explain how the hack works.

First Step:

Keep a pad of sticky notes and a pen in the same place you keep items you use daily (toothbrush, makeup, zit cream, etc.).

Every morning when you step in front of the mirror, reach for the sticky notes.

Do this FIRST!

Don’t even fix your wild bed head. GRAB THE NOTES!

Then take your pen and write down “I AM BEAUTIFUL”.

Step Two :

Stick the note to your mirror. Stick it where you can easily see it while getting ready.

Step Three:

Repeat as much as you want!
Grab another sticky note. This time, try writing down something you love about yourself. It can be about your appearance, or about a quality that makes you special.

Today I wrote “I am kind”.

Now stick it! Write as many as you want or need and keep sticking.

Take a minute to let the things you wrote sink in as you see yourself in the mirror. Recognize that YOU are the beautiful person in the mirror.

Beauty

As you continue to get ready, keep reading the notes, especially if you feel self-conscious. If you start to focus on a flaw, put your attention on your notes. Think of them as your personal beauty team complimenting you as you get ready.

You have to try this amazing beauty hack! Not only does it remind you of your beauty on the outside in no time, it makes you feel beautiful on the inside.

It beautifies your confidence.

Now you can take care of that bed head.

What are some ideas you can write on your sticky notes? Share your ideas in the comment section!

– ttfn G –

Dear Hope: I Miss My Old Best Friend

Dear Hope,Best Friend
I met my best friend through dance. We go to different schools, but I’d see her every week at dance class.
But last year she quit dance an she hasn’t been the same person since. All of a sudden she was obsessed with boys and how she looked. I knew it would be harder to stay friends without seeing her as often but I was determined to try. She wasn’t. I took her on my family vacation, only she spent most of her free time facetiming her other friends (who I didn’t know). I text her whenever I can, but it’s rare when she texts back cause she’s “too busy”. I don’t have a whole lot of friends, as I’m a pretty private person. She, however, is Miss Popularity and makes a big deal about how much more ‘popular’ she is than me.
It was only recently that I realized what she was doing. I don’t know if she realizes it or not. I’ve typed out so many text messages telling her how I feel, but I’ve never sent any of them cause I’m worried that I’ll ruin everything that’s left of our friendship. I really miss my old best friend and I want her back. I’ve tried to get her to dance again but she just gets annoyed. What should I do?
– Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,
It can be hard when things change, especially when it’s with your best friend. Unfortunately, situations and people do change. As much as you would like things to go back to the way they were, you cannot make her decisions. What you can do, is decide what is right for you.

It’s time to figure out where this relationship is going and what that means to you. From the way you described her, it doesn’t sound like she is acting like a friend . Her actions seem like she is pulling away from the friendship.

Send one of those texts you have written. Let her know how you feel. Ask her what’s going on. Is she pulling away or is she just going through something? I know you’re afraid of losing her, but you are already losing her. It’s better to find out what’s really happening, so you can start dealing with it.

If she says she is not pulling away, then you can start to mend the relationship if that’s what you want.

  • Let her know that you would like to spend more time together.
  • Explain how her bragging makes you feel.
  • Continue to work on making things better.

True friends respect each other and work out their differences. You both deserve friends that are willing to make the effort.

If she says that she is pulling away, then it’s up to you to decide what to do next. Maybe it’s time to move on . Not every friendship lasts and that’s ok. It takes both people to work at the friendship.
She may not say it in those words, but you will be able to tell.

  •  Maybe she doesn’t respond to your text
  •  Maybe she has an attitude
  •  She might say nothing is wrong, and that you just need to get over it

I hope that you can work this out. Either way you deserve a great friend. If it’s not meant to be her then it will be someone else. Don’t let being a private person keep you from the friendships you deserve. You have amazing qualities and someone would be lucky to have you as a friend.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope