Dear Hope: Is He Embarrassed by Me?
I have always been the big girl. I don’t care and my friends love me. But I have never really had a boy like me until 7 months ago. I started talking to this super cute guy in my English class. We were paired up for an assignment and found out we had a lot in common. We started talking on the phone every night. That progressed to hanging out every weekend. He went on and on about how much he liked me. When I bring up my weight, he says how beautiful I am. It was perfect at first. Even though we hang out, we never actually go anywhere. We always stay home at either my house or his. I ask him why and he just changes the subject. My friend said she heard him tell someone at school he doesn’t have a girlfriend. So what’s his deal? Is he really embarrassed by me? What should I do?
– Pretend Girlfriend
Dear Pretend Girlfriend,
You are a beautiful, strong girl. You should be dating someone who is proud of you. You should be going out and having fun on the weekends.
If you want to know what he is thinking, you need to talk to him. Ask him straight out why he always wants to stay home. See what his answer is. If it seems legitimate then talk about it. Make a plan to start to going out. Give him a chance to see if anything changes.
If his answer seems fishy at all, move on. You deserve the best. You deserve someone who will respect you and love you for you. Turn to your friends for support. They love you and will help you through this.
Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.