Monthly Archives: August 2015

Dear Hope: I Want a Job

Dear Hope,job
I want to get a part time job. My problem is I have no job experience, this would be my first job. I’m only 17 and have not worked yet. I’m not sure where to apply. I need flexible hours for when school starts and I don’t want to work at a fast food place. Any help would be great.
– Empty Pockets

Dear Empty Pockets,
Part time jobs available for your age group usually don’t require experience. They assume that this is your first job.

What they look for is who you are as a person. Tell them about any extracurriculars or small jobs you have done. You may actually have more experience than you realize.

Examples:
• Mowing lawns – Shows you can complete tasks and work hard
• Babysitting – Shows you are responsible and can handle sticky situations
• Played a sport – Shows you are great on a team
• Dog sat/walked – Shows you are good with more than just people
• Chess club – Shows that you are logical

You get the idea.

Where to apply:
• Department stores – They are always hiring, especially closer to the holidays. You can be a cashier or work on the floor putting clothes away and helping customers. Bonus, you will also get a discount on clothes.
• Grocery stores – Jobs for your age group usually include cashier, bagging groceries and stocking shelves.
• Hosting at a restaurant – One of the main tasks is seating people at their tables. It usually does not require handling food.
• Local gyms or offices – They will sometimes hire teenagers to answer phones and do some simple tasks.
• Delivering pizza – I know this is close to fast food, but you won’t actually be making the food. You will need a license and a car. This job also gives you the chance to get tips.

Any place that hires teens in school understands their schedule. They will be flexible with your school hours. They may not be flexible with sports and extracurricular. Be upfront with your availability when applying and interviewing.

Don’t get discouraged if you don’t get the first job you apply for. Apply at several places and keep applying until the right place offers you a job.

If anyone has any suggestions for Empty Pockets please let us know in the comments!

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

You Are a Fighter

What you need to know RIGHT NOW!

You are a fighter.

 

 

I know a lot of you have gone through difficult things lately. I promise you that you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Whatever you are going through right now, don’t stop fighting.

Fight for what you want. Fight for what you deserve! You are powerful.

I believe in you. Your turn to believe in yourself. 

What does being a fighter mean to you?

– ttfn G –

 

Dear Hope: Secret Boyfriend

Dear Hope,dear hope
Last weekend I went to this party at my friends house. My ex girlfriend S was there with her best friend J. I’ve always had a crush on J. I wanted to date her but she already had a boyfriend that’s how I ended up with S. I know it’s bad, but true. Well after the party J and I hooked up. We have been talking and secretly hanging out all week. We both like each other. We want to keep going with this and actually date, but we don’t want S to be pissed off. How should we handle this?
– SecretBoyfriend

Dear SecretBoyfriend,
If you want to keep seeing J you need to come clean with S.
For two reasons:
1. You should not have to keep your relationship a secret. Being secretive is not healthy and it’s not fair to either of you. It might be fun in the beginning to sneak around, but it will get old. It also limits the things you can do as a couple. If your friend has another party, can you bring your “girlfriend”?

2. S will eventually find out. It’s better if she find out from you and J. It will be hard to tell her and yes, she will probably be angry. Try to understand her feelings. Her ex-boyfriend hooked up with her best friend. Be honest, but be sensitive. She may be angry for a while. She may never get over this. Give her space and time. You can’t control how she feels, but being honest is the best thing for everyone.

Once you have told S, you and J can move forward. Honesty is a big part of a healthy relationship. From this point on, keep it real.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

It’s All About Me

all about me

The Hot Pink – All About Me Glasses 

 Do you wear all about me glasses?

When you wear all about me glasses, you only see things that affect you. The world basically revolves around you and what you want. You and your needs are top priority.

Can you relate to any of this?
• Do you like being the center of attention? Do you expect conversations to be about you and your interests?
• Do you get bored when other people are talking about themselves or their life?
• If you want something, do you expect to get it?
• Do you give equal time to the people you are in relationships with? Or, do you expect more from them than you are willing to give?
• Is giving and sharing difficult?
• Do you expect things to always go your way?

Answering those questions can be difficult, but they are a little rough for a reason. Being honest with yourself and answering tough questions can give you needed perspective on your life.

If you answered yes to most of these questions, you wear all about me glasses.

A world where everything revolves around you?

Sounds pretty perfect. Who doesn’t want things to go their way? Who doesn’t want to be the center of attention once in a while? But wearing all about me glasses warps your view. Instead of liking healthy attention, you need it to be about you all the time.

Wearing all about me glasses can take a toll on your relationships. The people who love you want to do things for you. They enjoy listening to you. The probably love giving you attention…but not EVERY moment of every day. They deserve attention too.

If you wear these glasses, rip those suckers off!

Change your perspective. Practice putting other people first. Listen to what those around you have to say. Think about how they feel.

Remember, you are important, but others around you are equally important.

Also, think about what you WANT vs what you NEED. Wanting things is easy. You might want things, you might want attention, you might want everything to go your way. But what do you really need? Sometimes want and need are totally different things.

Find the difference between want and need. Think about the feelings of those around you. Wave goodbye to those all about me glasses!

Have you ever worn these glasses? Tell us about it in the comments!

-ttfn G –

A-Z Survey

Hello everyone, it’s Gabriella here. I found this A-Z survey over at Sweetly Petite. It was a great way to learn more about Alison, the lovely girl behind the blog! I thought this would be a fun way to tell you a little more about me.

A-Z survey

A – Age: 19
B – Biggest Fear: I am a perfectionist and have always been afraid of failing. I am learning to embrace my imperfections.
C – Current Time: 10:51 a.m.
D – Drink You Had Last: Water! My friend thinks I am boring because I drink too much water, but it is so good for you!
E – Easiest Person To Talk To: Definitely my mom, Veronica. We can talk about ANYTHING.

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F – Favorite Song: There is no way I could choose a favorite. I love music! I am into songs from all different genres, new and old. I am singing practically all day, at home, while I am shopping, in the car. My boss even caught me singing at work the other day. You can’t stop the music.
G – Grossest Memory: When I got my tonsils taken out. Let’s just say it went terribly wrong and there was a lot of blood involved.
H – Hometown: My original hometown was Albany, New York
I – In Love With: These faces…A-Z Survey
J – Jealous Of: People who can travel often. I feel like a wanderer at heart.
K – Kindest Person You Know: My friend Brianne. She is incredibly sweet and kind to everyone!
L – Longest Relationship: 2 ½ years.
M – Middle Name: Nicole
N – Number of Siblings: ZERO- I am all by myself. I guess my mom decided to stop at perfection.
O – One Wish: I wish that everyone could truly understand their value. If everyone realized how capable and special they are, our world would be a much brighter place.
P – Person You Spoke To On The Phone Last: A co-worker just called me about a customer. I’m working on my day off…I should get a raise.
Q – Question You’re Always Asked: I was homeschooled, so I always get a ton of questions about that. The question I am asked most: do you just wear your pajamas all day?
R – Reason To Smile: Books, starry skies, and all the amazing people I have met through this blog!
S – Song You Last Sang: ABC by The Jackson Five This quiz has me thinking about the alphabet.

T – Time You Woke Up: 8:04 a.m. Very specific.
U – Underwear Color: Umm dark blue
V – Vacation Destination: Italy! I’ve been dreaming about going forever! I am 50% Italian and I have never even been to Italy! That is just wrong, and definitely needs to change soon!
W – Worst Habit: I am very indecisive! I take forever to make decisions. It honestly took me a while to decide on this answer.
X – X-Rays You’ve Had: My teeth, my wrist (I broke it when I was little) and my hip (after my mom and I were in a car accident).
Y – Your Favorite Food: Pizza! I love all kinds of pizza. I even like eating it cold for breakfast.
Z – Zodiac Sign: Libra

This is a fun way to learn more about the people behind the blogs we love!

Your Turn!
Pick a letter and answer it in the comments below OR
Do your own A-Z survey!
Let me know if you do this survey so I can come stalk you check it out!

– ttfn G –

Dear Hope: Shy Girl

Dear Hope,Shy
Ever since fourth grade, I have been shy with a shy voice. But it’s gotten better over the few years. I am still shy, and I hate it. I hate being the shy girl! I want to be outgoing and popular, but I am not. I am tired of being the shy girl! How can I stop being shy, and show the real me?
– Tired of Being Just The Shy Girl

Dear Tired of Being Just The Shy Girl,
You will never be “Just The Shy Girl”. No one is “just” anything. You are amazing and have so many things to share. Don’t let being shy hold you back. Be bold and brave! It can be scary to put yourself out there, but it is worth it.

Being shy can bring up questions in your mind. Will they like me? What will I say? How do I act?
Here are 6 tips to help quiet those questions.

1. Make a list of your qualities.

(Ex. Being a good friend) This will help you see how great you are. When you don’t show the real you, the world is missing out.

2. Make a list of your interests and things you like doing.

(Ex. Blogging) The fear of what to say is a big part of being shy. This will give you ideas to talk about when you are with other people.

3. Think before you talk.

Before you approach someone, figure out what you want to say. Have a topic ready to talk about or a question to ask. Asking a question is a great way to start a conversation.

4. Practice in front of a mirror.

This can sound silly, but it’s very helpful. Look at your body language when you speak. Do you seem relaxed? Are you smiling? Practice having conversations and asking yourself questions. It’s like preparing for a test. Studying will help you feel more comfortable.

5. Start living with confidence.

Make sure you always hold your head up. Don’t look at the floor. Don’t be afraid to smile at people when you pass them. If you are feeling extra bold, say hi as you pass someone.

6. Keep putting yourself out there.

Give yourself little challenges to do. (Ex. Today I will talk to two people I would usually be too shy to talk to.) Even if you just say hi, it’s a start.

Using these six tips will help boost your confidence.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Dear Hope: Two Stories, Two Boys

Dear Hope,boys
I have two stories, the first one is about *John. I met *John in the beginning of the school year. We sorta talked once in a while, he had a few girlfriends, but his brother told me he liked me, I liked him too, but his best friend also liked me so i think *John wanted to be loyal to his friend, he has a new girlfriend, but i know he still likes me, i just dont know what to do, then there’s *Derek. I found out *Derek liked me, but he’s kinda shy and we didnt talk until the end of this year and he told me that he was dating someone else, but that someone else and *Derek didnt act like a couple at all, and *Derek was staring me down in our last class together sitting far away from his “girlfriend” who was flirting with his friends, so help!!
– Ashlynn

Dear Ashlynn,
Trying to read *John’s and *Derek’s signs won’t give you answers. There is no way to know, without a doubt, what they are thinking unless they actually tell you.

What you do know is that they both have girlfriends. Even if they don’t act like a couple, they are still technically dating.

In these situations, it’s better to move on.

If it is meant to be, it will happen. Waiting around for them is unfair to you. You deserve to find someone who is single and honest with his feelings for you. You also don’t want to be a part of their breakup. If *John or *Derek want to date you, they need to break off their relationship first before getting you involved.

Getting mixed signals is frustrating. Remember, if they are serious about a relationship with you, the signals will be clear.

Always be honest with your feelings, but look for someone who is honest back. Whether it works out with one of them or not, you are worth something amazing.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope