Dear Hope: Mean Girls
How do I stand up to mean girls? There are these girls at my school and they are so mean to everyone. They think they are better than everyone. They tease me and my friend, I want it to stop but not sure what to do.
Dealing with mean girls is never fun. This is hard to imagine, but there can be reasons behind the teasing. I’m not saying that the teasing is ever ok, but there may be reasons why they feel they need to do it.
Even though “mean girls” always seem popular they also have insecurities. They want to make sure that they are liked and can keep the status they work so hard for. When people feel insecure, they sometimes feel better by making someone else feel worse. You and your friend need to stand tall. Understand that it has nothing to do with you. Ignoring them is the best thing to do.
Support each other. Lift each other up. You cannot change how they behave, but you can change how you react. Try not to let them affect you. Here are some more ideas on how to deal with drama.
You used the word tease, but if you at all feel like they are bullying you, talk to someone. Talk to a parent, teacher, counselor, coach, or anyone that you can help. This behavior is not acceptable and you don’t have to deal with it alone.
Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.