Monthly Archives: April 2015

5 Letters That Will Change Your Life

Lovable and capable

IALAC
I Am Lovable And Capable

The acronym (the letters) IALAC stand for I Am Lovable And Capable. We should learn this. We should know it. We are all lovable and capable. We need to own it. Capable does not mean perfection. When you put your best self forward or do your best, you were capable in that moment.

When you first wake up,
When you look in the mirror,
Before you go to bed,
Or anytime you need to hear it
tell yourself IALAC – I Am Lovable And Capable.

The next time you are feeling down on yourself:
Stop! Take a breath. Remind yourself of who you are.

Being capable means:
• Knowing that when you’re having trouble figuring something out, it’s ok to start over and try again.
• You know when you need help and when to ask questions.
• You stop and cool off before getting in a fight.
• Understanding you don’t have to be perfect.
• You can accept that other people’s actions have nothing to do with you.
• You are yourself.
Your life is your choice.
Choose success!
Choose good self-image.
Remember everything takes practice.
Practice loving yourself every day, every second of everyday.

IALAC – I Am Lovable And Capable.
I believe you are!
Now, you have to believe it too.

– NBL V –

Dear Hope: I Like Him, But…

Dear Hope,I like him
I like this boy at my church. I really, really want to be friends with him, but I am really shy around boys I like. I am scared my face will get red, I will say something wrong, or I will fall right on my face. I am even scared of meeting eye contact. I don’t know, if I even have the guts to talk to him. Any help?
– Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,
Everyone gets nervous sometimes, especially when talking to someone you like. I understand you are shy, but he is still just a person. I think trying to be friends with him is a great idea. Take a deep breath before you go to talk to him. Be yourself and talk to him as you would any friend. Yes, you might fall or say something weird, but who cares! I’m sure he is a nice person or you wouldn’t even like him.

Things to remember:
You will survive no matter what happens.

If you say something odd, just laugh it off and try again.

Be yourself! Don’t act like something you’re not. You want him to get to know the real you.

Figure out what you want to say before you approach him. Maybe talk about something that is going on in church. Something you are both involved in.

If he acts weird or ignores you then brush it off. Don’t feel bad or blame yourself. He doesn’t really know you either yet. His reaction is totally on him, not you. He may even be just as nervous.

If you never talk to him, you might miss out on a really great friend.

You’ve got this! Go for it!

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

How to Win at Life by Becoming a Quitter

Quitter

You should be a quitter.

You heard me. I want you to quit.

Have you ever heard the saying: “Quitters never win and winners never quit”?
Well, I don’t believe it.

I think winners do quit. They quit the right things.

Winners understand that to reach their goals, they have to let go of whatever holds them back. Sometimes you have to quit the right things to move on to something better.

Doing what is right for you always makes you a winner.

Is there something or someone in your life that is holding you back? Is it time to quit in order to move forward?

Don’t be afraid to quit the right things.

-ttfn G –

Dear Hope: Self- Esteem and the Truth

Dear Hope: Dear Hope,Be You
You just did a post on “Mean Girls”, and I wanted to ask more advice of you. I’m a teacher’s pet, and I only have one or two friends. I get called ugly and fat several times a week, along with other things I’m not even allowed to repeat. And I’m sure it goes on behind my back, too, but I’ve tried not to get into that. Not that those statements aren’t true, but it’s not helping my already-at-an-all-time-low self esteem. I rarely ever talk to anyone in class. Half the time, I just sit there and look around the room. My friends are great, and I appreciate their encouragement on this, but it’s not working. I know for a fact that I’m not beautiful or any of that. I’m tired of having things sugarcoated for me. After all of the torment I’ve gotten since, well, fourth grade, I start to believe things people say. I don’t confront them because I don’t want to cause more trouble than it’s worth. Plus, anything I say won’t help. They’d all just deny it if I reported them, and that’d get me nowhere. Believe me, I’ve tried. I don’t really know what I’m asking, but I’m open to any advice you have other than what I’m used to getting:
-“Tell an authority. It’ll make everything better.”
-“You ARE beautiful.”
-“You need to tell someone.”
-“Ignore them. They’re just jerks.”

Like I said, I’m very used to sugarcoating. If I could get the brutal truth, I’d appreciate that. Thanks!
-H

Dear H,
I’m sorry to hear that you are being called names. That is never acceptable and no one should have to deal with that. I understand that you want the truth. You have asked me not to sugarcoat it and I won’t. I believe you are strong. Stronger than you realize. Reaching out and asking for advice takes a great deal of courage. Also, the fact that you have dealt with this and never give up shows strength.

The brutal truth is you cannot control how other people act. You can only control you. You need to work on building up your self-esteem. It is much easier to ignore them and to feel beautiful when you believe you are worth it. I believe it and you should too. I’m not sugar-coating. It is true.

You need to be confident in who you are. Make a list of the things you like about yourself. Read them often for reminders of how great you are. You have friends that support you, let them.
Most times people say mean things to get attention or to feel better about themselves. They know it bothers you so you become the target. What makes the things they say true? No one gave them the authority on you. Their words do not have power over you.

Start working on your confidence and self-esteem.

You need to tell someone if they are bullying you. Go to someone you trust. Maybe a teacher, a parent, or a counselor. They can help you decide how to handle it and what the next step is. Even if they deny it, the school will know to keep an eye on them.

Check out this post: My Top Ten Tips For Better Body Image

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Is Your Story Ready for a Plot Twist?

Plot Twist

Your past:

Your past is a story that has already been written. It is full of pages packed with words. Those words are the choices you’ve made, the memories you’ve kept, your fears, your joy, your mistakes, and your successes.

• The past is an important part of your story.

• The past does NOT determine who you are.

• The past does NOT determine where you are going.

Your future:

Your future is a blank page ready for you to make your mark.

You have the pen in your hand. Write your story.

The awesome thing is that it’s yours.

If you’re not living the story you want, that means you’re ready for a huge plot twist.

 

– ttfn G –

A Few More Tidbits About Us

Thank you so much Sweetly Petite for the Creative Blogger Award! It is so sweet that you thought of us! We are seriously feeling the love.

 

She asked us to share five things about ourselves.

We play fair here at OBOH so we are going to take turns sharing facts.
1. Gabriella: My bedroom walls are blue and grey. On one of the blue walls, I painted a big tree. I am not the best painter, but it was a lot of fun to do.

 

2. Veronica: I love sunsets. If I am having a bad day, I can look at a sunset and instantly feel happier.

 

3. Gabriella: I adore going on road trips! I love singing at the top of my lungs in the car and finding unexpected surprises along the way.

 

4. Veronica: My favorite books are autobiographies. I love reading about how people grew up, what their lives were like, and what they have been through.

 

5. We BOTH could eat pizza for almost every meal.

 

Make sure you go and check out Alison’s blog Sweetly Petite!
She describes herself as “a strong-willed petite brunette”. She blogs about quilting tips, book reviews, and of course her life. Allison is on an honest journey of recovery from an eating disorder. If you need a little light and inspiration in your life, go and read her blog! Sweetly Petite is as sweet as her name!

– ttfn G – – NBL V –

5 Ways Your Perspective is Messing with Your Life

Perspective

How do you see the world? Do you walk through life with colored glasses on?

There is an expression about seeing the world through rose-colored glasses. It means that you see life as rosy or perfect and you have an optimistic perspective on life. I guess that’s not a bad thing, to always see the world as rosy and happy. I will take a guess and say that most people don’t see the world that way. But chances are you see things through some type of perspective.

Many of us are walking through life with colored glasses on. What color do we see through?

Is your perspective messing with your life?

1. The Blue – Accept me glasses:

If you wear these glasses, you look at the world from someone else’s eyes. You see judgment and disapproval. Wearing these glasses, you will always feel the need to fit in. You feel like you need to be accepted any way you can. Maybe by changing your look or your personality. Maybe being the best at school or sports.

2. The Hot Pink – All about me glasses:

Instead of seeing the world from your peer’s eyes, you see it only from yours. You only see yourself, and your needs. Everything is about you and everyone should know it. From your perspective, conversations, decisions, and people should all focus on you.

3. The Red – I Need A Relationship Glasses:

Wearing these glasses will leave you feeling sad and lonely. Unless of course you have a relationship. As long as you have that relationship, you feel whole. Without it, you don’t know who you are. You view your life and self-worth through someone being in love with you. You always need have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

4. The Yellow – Scaredy cat glasses:

These glasses make you see fear. Taking chances looks too risky because the consequences could be too big. Better to be safe than sorry and not do or try anything.

5. The Black – The world’s against me and everything sucks glasses:

These glasses make you see everything as a negative. You might assume everyone hates you and wants to see you suffer. You’re jealous of everything and everyone. You think your parents and teachers are probably against you. No matter what happens, you feel it is usually your fault.

Do any of those glasses feel familiar to you?

If the answer is yes, then they can be skewing your reality. No matter what color you wear, you are not looking at the world with a clear view and probably perceive things differently.

How we see the world plays a big part in how we react to it. Anytime we distort our sight, it makes it hard to see things for what they truly are. Some perspectives help us to see things in a new way, but some can negatively affect the way we feel about everything around us.

We all wear colored glasses at times, but knowing how they affect us can help us see a little better.

– ttfn G –     – NBL V –

OBOH Spotlight: Teddy’s New Bear

OBOH Spotlight

WHO’S IN THE OBOH SPOTLIGHT?

This month’s spotlight is on: Teddy’s New Bear

 

Teddy’s New Bear is a blog about a little bit of everything. She posts about her life as a teenager, thoughts and opinions, tips, books, and anything else on her mind. I love reading her blog! It is always interesting and positive.

I seriously recommend reading her posts and leaving her lots of comments!

Some of my favorite things she is posting about right now is her 18 Things To Do Before I Turn 18 and her Meaningful Mondays

Not only does she have a blog (you should definitely read) she has a YouTube page: That Bear Next Door
On her blog, she talks about music being a huge part of her life. You can see her love of music when you visit her YouTube page. Her page is full of awesome covers. She even plays the guitar! Go and check out her YouTube page….right now.

Show Teddy’s New Bear some love!!

Have a favorite blog? Know someone who you feel deserves the spotlight? Go to our contact page, send us an email, and tell us why! Check back the first Tuesday of every month to see who is in the spotlight.

– ttfn G –    -NBL V –

Dear Hope: Mean Girls

Dear Hope,Dear Hope Mean Girls
How do I stand up to mean girls? There are these girls at my school and they are so mean to everyone. They think they are better than everyone. They tease me and my friend, I want it to stop but not sure what to do.
– Teased

Dear Teased,
Dealing with mean girls is never fun. This is hard to imagine, but there can be reasons behind the teasing. I’m not saying that the teasing is ever ok, but there may be reasons why they feel they need to do it.

Even though “mean girls” always seem popular they also have insecurities. They want to make sure that they are liked and can keep the status they work so hard for. When people feel insecure, they sometimes feel better by making someone else feel worse. You and your friend need to stand tall. Understand that it has nothing to do with you. Ignoring them is the best thing to do.

Support each other. Lift each other up. You cannot change how they behave, but you can change how you react. Try not to let them affect you. Here are some more ideas on how to deal with drama. 
You used the word tease, but if you at all feel like they are bullying you, talk to someone. Talk to a parent, teacher, counselor, coach, or anyone that you can help. This behavior is not acceptable and you don’t have to deal with it alone.

Thank you for being brave and sending in your question.

Dear Hope

Your Powerful Secret

capable

There is something amazing inside of you. Something that allows you to accomplish anything.

It is your powerful secret!

You have the CAPABILITY to choose what your life looks like.

The best part about it: you have the power to make it all happen. YOU can turn your dreams into realities!
I will be honest, there are many circumstances that will definitely get in the way. They will make things difficult, or scary. They may try to discourage you or knock you out, but YOU have the power to overcome them.
Your life is worth it.

There will be people in your life that will try to make you unhappy; be happy anyways. Prove to those people, prove to your circumstances, and prove to yourself that you are unstoppable.
Show those friends that try to tear you down. Show your parents. Show everyone, the amazing, talented, unstoppable person you are. Don’t let that negativity win.
You are the champion in your life.

Remind yourself that you are stronger than the people who try to break you down.

You deserve happiness! You deserve success!
The best part is: you are CAPABLE of those things.

I know it doesn’t always feel that way. I get discouraged all the time. But I have realized that feeling discouraged is only part of the process. It isn’t the destination.

When life starts to feel impossible or discouraging REMEMBER: You DESERVE GREATNESS. You are CAPABLE of GREATNESS

When the negative noise around you is loud, let the voice within you SCREAM out that you are champion of your life. Because you are.
I want to hear you say it! Comment bellow and say “I AM CAPABLE”!

– ttfn G –

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