Do you ever have trouble saying no?
Do you ever have trouble hearing no?
Here are my 2 secrets that give YOU power over hearing and saying the word no.
Hearing the word no:
Will you go out with me? No
Will you go to the dance with me? No
Let’s have sex? No
Hearing the word no can feel like the end of the world.
You might think that if they said NO they must hate you.
You start questioning what you did wrong.
Your life is over!
Little Secret #1: Your life is not over
It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong just because you heard the word no. The person saying no just meant no. They don’t want to do whatever it is you were asking. They have a right to say no and it is perfectly fine. Your life is not ending. You will move on and survive hearing the word no.
Saying the word no:
No, I can’t hang out today.
No, I’m not ready to take it to the next level.
No, I’m not going to the party with you.
Saying the word no can be intimidating.
Maybe they will judge you or not like you.
Maybe you should just say yes.
You’re the bad guy.
Little Secret #2: You are not the bad guy
If you’re busy with other things, it’s ok to say no. If you don’t want to do what someone is asking it’s ok to say no. Saying no does not make you the bad guy. You are not saying you don’t like them. You’re not trying to be mean. No simply means no.
The word no is used to set boundaries because saying yes to everything is impossible.
There is no way you can say yes to everyone and everything. There’s not enough time in a life to do everything other people ask of you. Sometimes you have to say no, unless you want to forget about sleeping for the next 60 years.
Setting limits in relationships, like saying no to drugs and peer pressure. Deciding how far you will go with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Whether you are hearing or saying, the word no remember the 2 secrets.
1. Your life will not be over when someone says no to you.
2. You can confidently say the word no and not be the bad guy.
– NBL V –