Dear Hope: Virgin Boy
This is going to sound weird coming from a guy, but I’m still a virgin. It’s not like I haven’t had girlfriends or opportunities. I feel like I want to wait, but my friends always give me a hard time. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe it’s not a big deal and I should just get it over with. Guys don’t wait, so I shouldn’t either right?
– Virgin Boy
Dear Virgin Boy,
Sex is a big deal. It’s your body and you decide when you want to share it with someone else. It has to be right for you. No one else should decide or influence when the right time is. Not all guys just “get it over with”; you are not the only guy waiting. But even if you were, it’s still your decision. Something to consider: don’t just let your body do the deciding. Having sex involves your mind, body and spirit. Your body will be the loudest at the time, but involve your mind and emotions in the decision making. Think about how you will feel about it after. Is this the right time? Is this the right person? I can tell you that I think it’s great that you are waiting until you’re ready. But the goal is for YOU to have control over the decisions for your body, not anyone else.