Dear Hope: I’m My Boyfriend’s Secret
I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. It has been wonderful, well it’s been wonderful in private. He is so nice to me when we are on the phone and when we hang out at my house, but not so much everywhere else. Like in school he barely talks to me and when his friends are around he kinda makes fun of me. He is not really mean, but he acts like we are not dating. I asked him about it and he says it’s nothing he just doesn’t like his friends to know his business. Why is he doing this and what should I do? Other than that he is a great boyfriend.
This seems like an uncomfortable situation for you. I don’t know the reasons why he is doing this, but it’s not good for a healthy relationship. This may be hard, but you need to let him know that you are not comfortable with this. Ask him to be honest with his feelings and then give him a chance to explain to you what he is feeling. Maybe he has a real explanation or something that he is going through. If he gives you the same line about not wanting his friends to know his business, he is not ready to date you. You deserve to be with someone that is proud to be with you, and not want to hide your relationship. It’s not fair to you to have a hidden relationship. You should be able to go out in public together and hang with each other’s friends.