Hot or Not?
We recently received a Dear Hope question (Dear Hope: Am I Pretty?) that has inspired me to write today’s post. The question basically asked, “am I pretty or not?” That got me thinking about the things we go to and use to judge our beauty. One of the most popular things right now is the “Hot or Not” app.
“Hot or Not,” is an app where you take a picture of yourself and upload to have random people judge rate your “hotness” on a scale of 1-10. Sounds pretty harmless, right? Maybe even fun, at least if you get a good rating.
If your picture does get a high rating, do you feel beautiful, happy, and confident for the day?
But what happens to your self-esteem and self-worth if you get a low score?
Do you lose your confidence, feel ugly, or have a bad day?
Either way, good or bad, do you let that determine how you feel about yourself?
I want to let you in on a little secret. Wanting strangers to tell you whether you are pretty or ugly, does not help your self-esteem. It doesn’t matter if strangers are saying that you’re ugly, or pretty. You are chipping away at your self-worth either way.
You may be thinking to yourself: HOW? If I get a 9, I get a boost of confidence. It makes me feel good about myself.
Here is why: when you judge yourself off of how other people see you, you are getting your confidence and worth from someone other than yourself. You are letting them determine who and what you are rather than knowing for yourself.
Self- esteem and self-worth are personal and once we put them in someone else’s hands, we give away our power and ability to determine those things for ourselves.
You don’t need to go to someone else, especially some stranger, to find confidence. Find it in you. KNOW IT!
As human beings, we have sooo much more depth than whether we or “hot or not.”
Instead of putting yourself out there to let strangers decide if you’re “hot or not,” take your picture or look in the mirror and say to yourself “I AM PRETTY!”
When you feel confident within yourself, it will show up where it matters, in who you are as a person.
Some weird person’s random opinion of your “hotness” is not important, the way you see yourself is.
– ttfn G –