Dear Hope: How Do I Tell Him I’m Not Interested?
There’s this guy I have been talking to, I want to be just friends, but I know he is going to ask me out. I don’t want to go out with him, but I want to be nice, how do I tell him no? Or should I just go out with him once?
– Just Friends
Dear Just Friends,
Going on a date even once is not the answer if you are not interested. If you agree to a one time date, he will think you might be a little interested and he will get his hopes up. Most importantly, you never have to do something that you don’t want to do.
The best thing to do when someone you don’t want to date asks you out is to say no. It’s a hard thing to do and they don’t want to hear it, but it is the right thing. That way no one has false ideas. You should be nice but firm and honest. Tell him that you appreciate him asking, but you don’t feel the same. Let him know that you would like to continue to be friends. It’s important that you try and be relaxed about it and be chill. He may not want to be friends for a while. He will have to deal with his feelings for you and move on from the idea of going out with you.
You might lose a friend over this, but not being up front with him is wrong and will lead him on. You both deserve honesty and going out with someone that is truly interested.