Dear Hope: My boyfriend thinks it’s time for us to have sex.
I have been dating my boyfriend for six months and he has decided it’s time to take it to the next level. He wants us to have sex. We kiss and stuff, but I don’t know if I am ready for sex. I’m a virgin so I don’t know what’s right. How long should you be dating before you need to have sex the first time?
There is never a time you would NEED to have sex. Sex is a very personal connection between two people. If you are not sure if you are ready, then you’re not ready, and that is okay. The only person that can decide when you are ready is YOU. There should never be any kind of pressure from anyone. Good relationships are built on honesty, trust and respect. You need to be honest about your feelings and he should respect that. Let him know you care about him but you are not ready for that step.
If he starts to pressure you then he will not be respecting your feelings and choices. The great thing about it being your body is that you make the decisions. Respect your body; stand up for your choices. The right person will love you for you and will wait till you are ready, no matter how long it takes to feel right for you.